Making Relationships Work
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Making Relationships Work is not anything that you uncover suddenly, it is anything that is learned through awareness acquired through time. How you act in your present relationship is done through a blend of experiences that were gained through earlier relationships. When anything went wrong, you made a mental note of it to make sure it didn't happen again. If, on the other hand, you had a great experience, you make note of that and use it in future marriages. Of course everyone makes mistakes, its human nature, and a successful marriage done by working through these mistakes together. No marriage is perfect, despite what the movies would have us believe.
Here's the thing about a relationship: unless someone does anything disgraceful such as cheating or anything else unconscionable, it is salvageable. Of course you have to want it to be salvageable by both parties. While many people tend to over think things, the two most important aspects of making relationships work is accepting and communication. Though these might seem elementary they are really the key ingredient to a solid base for your relationship. If you are able to communicate you'll be able to work through just about anything. Most marriages that fail do so because the couple is not able to work through the very basic issues that could be easily rebuilt by just talking and listening.
Say your marriage is not working and it's on the brink of failing which clearly you both can see. You're relationship only consists of you both jousting all the time so breaking up seems a real likelihood. If you want to keep the marriage going some radical measures need to be taken. There are lots of resources out there including books, cd's, MP3's on marriages, your preacher, and even family.
You might also want to consider seeing a relationship therapist, someone who can help you with the deeper seeded issues in your relationship; someone who can get you to talk to each other. It may not be pretty, but sometimes there are just some things you won't tell your partner. For some reason, when people are in a structured and calm environment they are willing to talk more. Therapists are also specialists and the good ones who have numerous clients are also well practiced in solving your problems. Possibility are they have seen just about something so while your problems may seem unique they know just the right technique to use. However, a therapist isn't the magic answer and making marriages work is something that needs to be worked on, but that little bit of help from a professional makes that work a bit easier.
Finally, please remember that making relationships work is something that takes effort from both people who are working toward a common goal of keeping the marriage going and making it strong. While it may seem cheesy, you don't just need someone you like living with, but someone who is your best friend and will be there for you at all times and often these couples are battle tested from their own ups and downs. |
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Author Resource:-
Adam has a passion for relationships,what human being doesn't, which he likes to share with others. He writes hoping that maybe his words will help others struggling for answers.
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Adam Raby
Submitted
2010-08-18 01:42:19 |
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